Esther Perel

Esther Perel (born 1964) is a Belgian-American psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert who has achieved international recognition for her innovative approach to modern relationships, infidelity, and desire. Fluent in nine languages, Perel brings a unique cross-cultural perspective to her work, drawing from her background in a multilingual Jewish household in Antwerp, Belgium. She is the author of bestselling books including "Mating in Captivity" (2006) and "The State of Affairs" (2018), which offer sophisticated insights into the complexities of committed relationships and the reasons people seek intimacy outside their partnerships. Her podcast "Where Should We Begin?" became a global phenomenon, featuring intimate conversations with real couples as they navigate relationship challenges. Perel's approach challenges conventional wisdom about monogamy and desire, emphasizing the tension between stability and excitement in long-term partnerships. She has become a leading voice in modern relationship discourse, speaking at major international conferences and reaching millions through her media presence, fundamentally reshaping how people discuss commitment, sexuality, and connection.